It’s a sad, sad fact that many people in life don’t want others to do well.
I see it every day. I experience it every day!
Some of the people surrounding us take more comfort in us staying still – or moving backwards – than moving forward.
My best friends know my obsession for my businesses and happily sit there and listen to me tootling on about my next move and all my exciting plans – but, as is the case for everyone, there are a few people who’d rather your stories were less about success and more about excessive stress!
A discouraging friend, an unsupportive family member – you may have experienced them – and it may have made you question your own abilities.
You’d think that family and friends would always have your back and support you, right?
Sadly, not always.
So, can these people affect you and your business?
Well, in truth, yes, they can. They can make you question your abilities and limit your dreams, because they simply don’t understand them.
Now, I’m not talking just business here – but in all aspects of life. The new body you want, the car, the year long travelling you have always dreamed of.
So, how do you overcome this?
Goal setting
Well firstly, be clear on your goals and what you want to achieve. If you know exactly how you want to do something, hold tight to it and push forward.
Don’t be disheartened
When people tell me something is hard – I always say “if it was easy, everyone would do it”, and it’s so true.
Things can be challenging at times – but the reason we can stand above the crowd is because we kept going when others gave up!
Define your success
Everyone’s level of success is different – be sure to know what yours is. Success doesn’t necessarily mean pounds in the bank – it can mean a great work life balance, your dream car, more time with your family, working part time but earning full time wages…. any number of things.
For me, it’s having flexibility, good relationships with people around me, being able to indulge my one true obsession (other than my business) which is travelling and not having to worry at night about bills.
If you know what defines your success, you are more empowered to work towards it.
Be courteous
When people like to challenge your ideas, they will probably be saying it because they care about you.
Thank them for taking the time out to discuss their concerns, but explain you are following a path you believe is right for you.
Never, ever, ever give up!
Simple, eh?
But keep going with your plans and dreams.
Did you know –
The Beatles were turned down by a recording studio with the feedback, “we don’t like their sound – they have no future in show business”.
Oprah Winfrey was demoted from her job as a news anchor because she ‘wasn’t fit for television’.
These people pushed on relentlessly and have become the legendary successes they now are.
Don’t give up and follow your dreams.